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When did “I’m Happy” become so cliche?


Often times we look at what someone else has and we determine automatically that they must be ”Happy”. It seems like every where we turn everyone is on this journey to search for their happiness in life. You ask folks how they’ve been and the instant answer is “I’m happy”. It’s becoming so cliche to hear in my personal opinion. It’s become the new “I’m blessed and highly favored”. Remember when people over used that ten plus years ago? I guess the new times just call for a new terminology. Then I also think about this new wave where people want no bad vibes and no bad energy in their lives. This is a very valid request to have in some ways. However, when we use this motto to keep others from telling us the cold hard truth, that is where the issue lies. It’s similar to what we used to say about a “hater” until people started to realize everbody isn’t hating on you. Sometimes people are simply offering you the truth.

My thought around this notion of happiness and good vibes all the time is that there isn’t really any growth in that.

When I think about every hardship I’ve gone through and how it has molded me into the person I am today. I wasn’t “happy” when I was going through it.

I also think about some of the milestones I’ve accomplished in my career. The transitions weren’t a “happy” time but a very necessary juncture in my journey to purpose.

I also think about an important conversation my sister and I had (Hey Meghan!). We discussed the topic of knowing when it’s God moving and when it’s not him. How he creates path ways for us to just organically walkthrough. How easily transitions happen when he is a part of the details. One question that came up though, was surrounding a sermon by Pastor Toure where he discusses God’s way won’t always be easy. So here we have two contradictory themes... God making transitions easy and organic verses God overseeing a difficult overall journey. The conclusion we came to after looking into different scripture and talking further is this:

“Happiness“ isn’t the ultimate determining factor to say its “God ordained”. There most definitely will be suffering and strife and more so as Christian believers. However, God will continue to be a lamp to our feet and a light to our path along the way. The whole purpose for following Christ is because we KNOW the journey isn’t easy. We know the journey is not solely about being “happy”. It’s really about stepping into the larger purpose that God has called us to. 10 times out of 10, it’s not what you desire but what God desires for you in his kingdom. Every trial, every experience, and every situation has a lesson in it. Let’s focus on fulfilling our purpose in life which will ultimately bring unconditional joy and contentment. Happiness is a temporary emotion. Let’s strive for the peace and contentment that only Christ can give us by asking for forgiveness, extending grace to others, and focusing on the things that are important.


Scriptures for the road:

Proverbs 19:21 New Living Translation (NLT)

21 You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.

Psalm 57:2 New Living Translation (NLT)

I cry out to God Most High,[a] to God who will fulfill his purpose for me.

Romans 8:28 New Living Translation (NLT)

28 And we know that God causes everything to work together[a] for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.



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