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“Stability” is the new sexy.

Updated: May 7, 2020

A term we've all heard before. I want to share what this means to me.

Today more than ever, I have a desire to be with those who know how to commit to something and remain committed through the difficult stages of manifestation. As I’m going through this process myself, I have great respect for those who stay committed to what they have started and most definitely plan to finish. Whether they finish or not was never the question, just a matter of time and patience to go along with the journey.

On the contrary, there are people who literally have commitment phobia. This could be due to fear of failure, confusion on where to start, and really trying to define their lane. I too, was at this stage when trying to discern what path to take. What I struggled with was this question; Is this a selfish intent or is this truly God’s will for my life? The late Dr.Myles Munroe said it best

“You’ll know you’ve discovered your God given purpose, because the purpose benefits other people, not you.”

I also tend to think about the parable of talents in the Bible, and I came to realize, I don’t want to end up as the brother who did not multiply his talents, but buried them instead. So these days, I’m committed to doing more writing. I’m committed to healthier decision making in my eating. I’m committed to hoaning my gift that will make room for me. It’s not easy by any means. Just like a work out regime, sometimes I’m pumped, other times I’m feeling bland.

However, with commitment, I’m learning to push pass how I feel in the moment because reaching purpose is never tied to an emotion, but a decision.

I think the most difficult thing I had to determine is my “Why”. The reason you want to do what your doing. Most times if we think about it, our happiness is tied to what gains can we produce for ourselves. It’s also a scary thought to know how drastically your life can change in a split second. So in essence, I ask myself, why do I want the current desires of my heart? At the root of those answers is the feeling of wanting to do what I was designed to come to earth to do. I believe that God made us all unique and he placed our gifts on the inside of us to share with the world. So, when determining my “why” my answer is: Because I want to fulfill God’s will for my life. I don’t want to leave this world without doing so. It is this passion that drives everything that I do.

So, I look for stability these days. I surround myself with the “not faint at heart“ because this is the road less traveled. Of course we know the company you keep is who you become. So I dont have a problem with choosing my circle wisely. I don’t have a problem choosing my life partner wisely. I don’t have a problem choosing my decisions wisely. I now understand that my fulfilling of God’s will for my life depends on me.


Scriptures for the Road

Read the Parable of Talents - Matthew 25:14-30

Matthew 7:17-20 New Living Translation (NLT)

17 A good tree produces good fruit, and a bad tree produces bad fruit. 18 A good tree can’t produce bad fruit, and a bad tree can’t produce good fruit. 19 So every tree that does not produce good fruit is chopped down and thrown into the fire. 20 Yes, just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions.

1 Corinthians 15:58 New Living Translation (NLT)

58 So, my dear brothers and sisters, be strong and immovable. Always work enthusiastically for the Lord, for you know that nothing you do for the Lord is ever useless.



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