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I had to let it go...

One of the hardest lessons that I’m learning throughout this year, would be the concept of why it is important to let go. The way in which I arrived at the conclusion that letting go is extremely important, didnt come to me in a way one would think. Usually, it takes an unfortunate circumstance for us to learn the process of letting go. Losing a loved one, relationship, job etc. For me, I’ve grown to understand this concept through all of the “Newness” that has developed in my life.

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2018 was definitely an eye opener for me and the beginning of understanding the point that God has a purpose for my life. I had no idea I would be receiving a promotion into a new position at the start of this year. I wouldn’t have even predicted it. However, in order for me to move into the new position, I had to let go of the old one. That may sound rutimemtary but there is a process of letting go that I had to walk through without realizing or placing a title on exactly what I was doing. I had to part ways with colleagues, be in the awkward space of being promoted amongst them, and having the courage to step out on faith about what the new position holds. That in itself was a tough transition, but necessary.

I also moved into a new apartment, reached a new level of spirituality in my Christian walk, had to buy a new phone after crashing my other, and to top it off... I bought a brand new car which means I said goodbye to a car that I’ve had my entire 20s! With all the new things happening in my life, in each instance I had to be willing to let something go. To reach a new consciousness in my spirit I had to let go of what I thought I knew, and study the Bible as a scholar just as a pastor would do. No one tells you to own your christian walk... you have to decide that you’re going to know Jesus better everyday for yourself.

I also had to let go of my old comfort zone and place I’ve lived since moving to New York. I had to make a move the would sustain me for the long run, if that is the path God chooses. I had to make up in my mind in each of these situations that what lies in front of me, is better than what is now behind me. So in essence, I had to understand why it was important that I let those things go. If I hadn’t, I wouldn’t be where I am in this time of my life.

I believe self #reflection is probably the best tool in anyone’s toolbox.

If we don’t self reflect we really aren’t paying attention to how our lives unfold. We also miss key levels of intimacy with our creator where he’s teaching us what we need to do to fulfill our calling. Out of all the new things that were taking place, I was selfishly trying to rekindle things of old with a familiar face & a familiar relationship pain. It was after self-reflection that led me to understand why letting go is the best decision I could ever make for myself. I think it’s also important to address why we are sometimes afraid to let go. Let go of the person we love that means us no good, the friends that no longer serve a healthy purpose in our lives, the career that has made us miserable, or the terrible habits that keep us unhealthy. We’re afraid to let go because we don’t know what the other side looks like. What is life without that person, place or thing? What will I do without it or them? Who am I without them? Those questions keep us in bondage of our own self inflicted fears.

What I can say is I feel liberate, limitless, and free. I know that the minute I let something or someone go... better is either around the corner or on its away. It’s happened so frequently to me in 2018 that I have no choice but to trust that God will continue to supply bigger and better than what I thought I could do for myself. Trust God, trust yourself, step out on faith and learn to let go. #FelderOfficial


Scriptures for the Road...

Philippians 3:13-14 New Living Translation (NLT)

13 No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it,[a] but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.

1 Corinthians 13:11 New Living Translation (NLT)

11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.



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