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It's bigger than you... Trust me.


Every once in a while I have a very meaningful conversation that strikes me to my core. One thing that is for certain is we live in a very "self-centered" era. We have selfies, social media platforms to promote ourselves, vanity, and instant gratification all contributing to this notion that it's all about you. Nowadays you hear "If you're not happy, then you should leave". You also hear "Im going to live life the way I think it should be". Now granted I can agree to some degree about both of these statements. However, everything in life that you're currently dealing with, unhappy with, frustrated with, and completely done with is bigger than just you... Trust me. The reason I say this is because self-centered beliefs boomerang right back to you. This means while your in it to please yourself, 9 times out of 10 the others are in it to please themselves too. So, no, it's not just about you... every one involved has a "hidden agenda" if you will.

Think about your friends, family, co-workers, etc... if you find yourself working along side another person it is to reach a common goal, but for the most part very different reasons internally. I say all this to ask... What is your focus? Why is it that you do what you do? What is the reward that you seek to receive after giving all of your time and effort into something? Does this prize include self gain? Does the end result include advancing your own platform? Does it include seeking unsolicited attention? Why is it that you make the decisions you make? What exactly are you getting out of the deal? When your answer to all of these questions is "Nothing at all"... then and only then have you moved past selfishness to selflessness. Doing something for others and expecting nothing in return. Giving to those who could never repay you. Treating people with respect although you may serve at a higher capacity. These noble examples sound like blasphemy to the world we live in today and in reality, these examples are what we should be striving for.

Dear Students,

When was the last time you did something for someone else outside of yourself? When have you thought about supporting a cause that had absolutely nothing to do with you? Think about your current life and the things that are most important to you. Are your top priorities selfish priorities? Think about where you have room to develop outside of yourselves. Giving time and energy that you can never get back is precious and does something wonderful for your soul. The things you do when no-one is watching is what defines you... that's called your character. The person you portray online whether it's real or fake is a personality. Learn to build character, not personality. Life outside of your self-centered bubble is bigger than you...Trust me. You have your place in this world to be a catalyst for change. Change begins with the self and extends to others. Try your best to give efforts to something outside of your immediate self, it can be the beginning of a rewarding life and internal feeling for you. Most importantly keep going, keep learning, and keep growing.

-Dean Felder


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