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Stay in your Lane

Venn Diagrams. We know them, use them profusely, and for most it was the first tool students were taught to compare, contrast, and see similarities visually. This concept works great when it is applicable to contextual content or subjects of study. The usefulness of this diagram is not to be confused with using it for your life. In which case most people live there lives comparing and contrasting it to others. Now we know that this practice can be super harmful seeing that you don't know the next person's story or journey to where they currently are. You also do not know at face value if they are truly happy or fulfilled. It is very typical of an age group to experience similar things at very similar times. The way society has grouped sub-populations of people together doesn't help because you tend to compare yourself to people within your "grouping". You may compare yourself to classmate, co-worker, or family member. It's even typical for people to compare themselves to strangers on the street or internet. Here's why this subconscious competition is unhealthy.

You are you and they are them. Stay in your lane. There is no need to compare yourself to the next person simply because your journey is yours and yours alone. Your timing is different, your style is different, and your goals are different. You also want very different things out of life that may equate to success. Focus on you. Focus on the things that drive your life. If you begin a workout journey you can't compare yourself to someone who's been working out for 3 years consistently and expect the same results. If you are a beginning ball player or pianist... Your skill level is no where near the talent that has been practicing for years. You have to work to improve yourself and yourself only. Set attainable goals for you and what you are realistically capable of achieving within time increments. It is not a sprint but a marathon. You also should be loving yourself for exactly who you are. Embrace your strengths and weaknesses. Embrace the learning experiences received, it will all pay off in the end.

Dear Students,

The one thing that's important in life is going at your own pace. Setting your own standard for yourself and adhering to that in spite of what others may have to say. You are the master of your fait and the captain of your soul. You must follow through with your desires for success and not build them on what someone else may have for your life. Stay in your lane and stay in your journey. You won't choose the same major, or the same songs, or the same outfits, or the same career paths. You won't take the same classes or end up at the same school. You won't get the same grades and you won't learn material quite the same. Everyone is different and I don't want you to place a venn diagram on your life. Comparisons are hard and often times unfair. This is self inflicted controversy that can be avoided all together. Nothing is better than being yourself. Most importantly always remember to keep going, keep learning and keep growing.

-Dean Felder

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