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You're not Crazy

We all do it. We all talk to ourselves and check in to make sure we're not crazy. Check in to make sure we're not over reacting. That feeling of discontent usually is your intuition or spirit sharing with you that something is odd, off, or doesn't fit your ethical/personal views. We all know when something isn't right. We sense it and we can identify it right away. For instance, when you see someone being treated unfairly... or you witness some verbiage that doesn't seem to support the conversation at hand. You may even find yourself in the middle of an awkward situation between friends, co-workers, lovers, or family members. The bottom line is that you're not crazy. Yes, something was wrong with what they said, or even how they treated you. Yes, there was a better way for that individual to handle the situation. Yes that teacher or administrator seems to be bias in some regards. Yes. you are correct. You're not crazy. What would make you crazy is how you respond to what you see and hear.

Something happening to you is half the battle. It's how you respond to that stimulant that determines your character and wherewithal to deal with obstacles in your way. When something happens in your life that didn't go as you planned... how do you respond? When you don't receive the grades you studied for or you didn't land that summer job/internship how do you respond? When your friends decide to hang out without you... how do you respond? No, you're not crazy for thinking that wasn't friendly. Yes things seem a bit odd. How will you react? The only part of life you can control is your response. Your responses in life say everything about you and nothing about them. Learn to acknowledge yourself from within. Even if that means talking to yourself. Identifying what you feel... and thinking through your response is key before acting. Sometimes in the heat of the moment you don't have a real chance to "think". Try to remember neutral words and responses that no-one can draw positive or negative conclusions from (i.e "wow" "really" "that's interesting"). Always acknowledge what you feel when you feel it. Honor it, but don't RE-act to it, THINK-act to it.

Dear Students,

As you are probably discovering on your journey through teenage years and into emerging adulthood, no-one is perfect. No one is exempt from mistakes. There will be times when you will be wronged and other times when you will be in the wrong. Sitting silently when something transpires will eventually define you if you don't define your stance in it on your own. Unfortunately decisions are made whether you are actively involved in the decision making or not. Choose to honor your feelings as they come to you. Then decide how you'd like to proceed in the most intelligent and logical way possible. Just because you are able to show emotion (anger, sadness, confusion) doesn't mean that is your go to answer for every situation that you encounter in life. Unfortunately there are adults who still don't grasp the concept of knowing there is more to showing emotion than just anger. However, thats the only emotion they feel comfortable showing because other emotions (happiness, gratitude, and submissiveness) aren't seen as a sign of "strength". Im here to encourage you to be versatile in your expressions, learn to think before you react to how you feel, and know you have feelings for a reason. You're not crazy for feeling. You're only crazy when you pretend why you feel really isn't there. Most importantly I want you to always keep going, keep learning and keep growing.

-Dean Felder

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