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Here's the Truth about Lying


TED talks. One of the best past times you could possibly encounter to not only diversify your perspective, but gain new knowledge and virtually a new way of life. In 2011 Pamela Meyer, author of "Liespotting" gave an interesting talk about Lies. In hearing this talk I immediately began to think of the thousands of ways in which America has built a culture of lies, more so an inevitable part of each being. This is also contradictory to the morals and values that seemingly must be upheld by any and every citizen. Then I began to think... Everything about our way of life in 2017 is indeed a complete "Lie".

Something profound about the entire TED talk that seem to stick was the statement "Lying is an attempt to bridge the gap between our wishes and fantasies about who we wish we were or could be... with what we are really like". If you look at every marketing or branding campaign, social media, news outlets, etc. We are conforming to what we wish we are every single day. Every post, picture, story, event, is fabricated for the likeness of the viewers and consumers. What really burns my toast is this outward portrayal is effecting our students in every way possible. Students are subconsciously submitting to the notion that who you are online is who you really are in life. Perception is now a fabricated reality.

In the book "Quiet" by Susan Cain, the first chapter delves into the "Mighty Likable Fellow" in discussing how our society went from a culture of character to a culture of personality. What's the difference between the two? Merriam-Webster definition of Character: One of the attributes or features that make up and distinguish an individual. Personality is defined as a distinction or excellence of personal and social traits. So in layman's terms... Character is who you are when no one is watching... personality is who the world thinks you are.

Dear Students,

I challenge you all to look beyond who you portray yourselves as online to an audience. Work to build the skills necessary for everyday life in addition to online presence. Characteristics such as kindness, humility, and authenticity go much farther than the number of likes you receive. Every student is on an educational journey whether you are in 7th grade or a sophomore in college. Remember to give yourself room for mistakes, and room to learn from those mistakes. Try as much as possible to bridge the gap between whats fiction in your portrayals and what life really is. You never know who you may inspire. Most importantly keep going, keep learning, keep growing.

-Dean Felder

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